On Being Nice

Seems the most important virtue a person must have these days is to be “nice”. Doesn’t matter if he’s lazy, or a cheat, or a gossip, or sleazy, or wasteful, or foolish, what matters is that he’s “nice” and doesn’t offend anyone. And it doesn’t matter if a person is diligent, wise, helpful, and creates real value, what matters is that he doesn’t ruffle too many feathers and rock the boats of our comfort zones.

Doesn’t matter if our employees don’t perform what matters is that we’re nice. I disagree. While I don’t espouse being mean, we promote inefficiency and waste by coddling people who don’t perform, and we promote an uncompetitive Philippines.

Doesn’t matter if our kids our brats, what matters is that we’re cool to them. I disagree. Raising a brat is not being nice to the world that brat will affect, its not being nice to that brat’s future spouse, and will most likely contribute to future brats.

Doesn’t matter if we, together with our friends, are laughing towards mediocrity, what matters is that we’re laughing. I disagree. Mediocrity is not nice for the men and women whose excellence makes the lives of the mediocre possible. Mediocrity is not nice for succeeding generations that have to come from nothing, building with nothing, because someone was more concerned with being deemed nice.

Doesn’t matter if he’s a corrupt official, what matters is that he’s nice to me. I disagree. Condoning corrupt leaders is not nice at all to the millions of people who suffer because of his failure to lead. We are selective in our “niceness”. We are nice to those who benefit us and blind to the millions who they directly cause suffering to.

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David Bonifacio Husband, Father, CEO of Bridge, Managing Director of New Leaf Ventures. #DB

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