I’m going to make this quick. I need to be home in a few minutes. I just picked up some ciabatta to add to tonight’s dinner that Yasmin is preparing. She is probably exhausted by now, having had to watch Elijah all day. We don’t have any fulltime maids or nannies. It’s a lot of work but we like it that way. I’m exhausted too, not to mention sick with a bad throat and a slight fever. It’s from the terrible naps that add up to only 3-4 hours a day that now makes up my “sleep”. But I’m taking this time to write this before I forget. I literally sat down from my walk back home to share one simple message:
Marriage and parenthood are highly tiring, expensive, and testing experiences, and I highly recommend them.
I highly recommend committing yourself to loving another more than yourself.
I highly recommend learning how to be selfless.
I highly recommend spending the bulk of what you earn on others.
I highly recommend undergoing the fire of early marriage, the paranoia of new parenthood, and the soul-altering process that one undergoes through with both.
I highly recommend the tightening of belts.
I highly recommend the loss of personal freedom for the gain of family unity.
I highly recommend pursuing internal scores more than externally impressive achievements.
I highly recommend the early mornings and late nights, the sleepless days, and the no-choice moments of calling out to God.
I highly recommend going to work exhausted, willing yourself to be excellent, and finding you have more capacity than you knew.
I highly recommend saying yes to difficult commitments that force you to become mature and wise.
I highly recommend them because through these experiences we undergo a wondeful metamorphosis. In the process of seeming breaking down, we find that we are actually being reshaped into something far more glorious than what we were originally. In a world that seeks comfort and security most, choose ripening. It is not comfortable nor secure, but it is beautiful. Beauty is worth it. I highly recommend it. #db