The Roadblocks Inside Us

The Roadblocks Within Ourselves
There are terrible days. You know what I mean. These are the times when nothing seems to be working, where all the best-laid plans unravel, and where our efforts don’t seem to be producing anything worthwhile. I feel this way sometimes with my art, drawing draft after draft, but still staring at an empty canvas. Or with my writing, I probably have 2 or 3 unfinished articles for every posted one. My life is full of false starts. It’s frustrating.

But it isn’t fatal. In fact, it’s part of the eventual victory. All those hidden efforts, never-to-be-seen drafts, and unknown perseverance is what leads to breakthrough. 


Many times we like to blame someone else or some external circumstance for our predicaments. I’ve found that not only is this counterproductive, it’s also not accurate.

My financial problems were not because my parents didn’t give me capital to start-off with. Pretty much all my financially tight periods were caused by overspending, taking-on too much risk, and even over-giving, giving away cash I didn’t have yet to great causes, which is still not financially wise.

My health problems are many times because of my diet, my sleep habits, my drinking habits, my overdoing things, NOT because of expensive health care, or having a lot to do at work, or because of stress, which are the common scapegoats for people.

When there are business issues, while I would like to blame staff or circumstances, I’m always reminded that I was the one who allowed that staff member to be in the position. I was the one who didn’t push for better preparation or thought of a more effective strategy.

When my wife and I fight, I quickly default to blaming her in my head, but always, without fail, a lot of pride within me who is most at fault.

When things don’t happen the way I want, I find that sometimes I question God, saying, “Why? Why me? Why not some other more evil guy?” Then I remember that there are many things in my own heart that prove that I am that evil guy. And that I’m actually currently getting more than I deserve.

This may be true for you as well.

This is why we need to constantly be moving forward. Constantly moving forward means daily moving forward, even if it’s in small ways. 

“But I’ve been striving for years already!” I get that a lot, especially from myself, when I’m complaining about how long things are taking. But then I remind myself of a something Stephen Covey said in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, “Private victories precede public victories.” So I pause and check inside, asking, “How am I doing in my private victories?” And I usually find that the real reason why I haven’t been able to progress is because of a roadblock within myself.

Moving Forward
This Thursday, I’ll be speaking at Bo Sanchez’s Kerygma Conference to speak on Bravely Moving Forward in Business. I’ve altered my presentation last minute to focus more on something more valuable than just making more money or achieving growth. I want to talk about the 3 important foundations we all need to build, which are 3 private victories we need to win constantly, in order to progress bravely through life. But more than that, I want to talk about WHY we need to win these victories, why we need to lay these foundations, and why we need to constantly be progressing.

I’m looking forward to sharing my thoughts on this topic. Please pray for a successful event.

David Bonifacio

David Bonifacio Husband, Father, CEO of Bridge. #DB

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