It’s About Infinite Possibilities Not Minimum Requirements
“Some people make things happen, some watch things happen, while others wonder what happened” This is part 4 of my 5-part series on relationships. I’m jumping to this point because the thoughts on this topic are flowing right now. Writing takes a lot of discipline, but there are days when the inspiration for a certain piece is there and you better seize her. Besides, I’ve been getting messages asking me to continue. If you want to read the others, you can read them at the following links: 1. It’s About What’s Most Important 2. It’s Not About What You Think You Deserve. It’s About Who You Choose 3. It’s About What You Got Across Not What You Think You Said or Did 4. It’s About Infinite Possibilities Not Minimum Requirements 5. It’s About Whatever It Takes Before we move forward, I’d like to make it very clear that I AM NO EXPERT on relationships. I’m no expert on anything. I’m not an expert Christian (not even close). I’m not an expert businessman (just ask the banks). And I’m definitely not an expert on people or relationships (just ask anyone). But I’m learning, and I’m sharing with you the lessons along the way. Irrelevant Minimums I noticed something interesting about our top staff members: The excellent ones always exceed expectations. The ordinary ones usually disappoint. I noticed this too among the people I know. The excellent, disciplined, hardworking, persevering, consistent, and faithful people, even with their mistakes, seem to continue to grow and impress. While the ordinary people, by ordinary I mean the average well-intentioned human being, seem to be stuck in a rut. What does this have to do with relationships? A lot actually. Because the principle here is this: Excellent people are not after the minimum achievement or meeting a minimum requirement. They’re after something much bigger the minimum becomes irrelevant. Relationships with minimum people are bound to disappoint. Relationships with complete devotion will surpass your wildest dreams. Ordinary people are simply trying to pass. Excellent people are giving it all they’ve got. It’s the difference between the guy who guns for a passing grade and the guy who goes for an A+. They’ll both pass the test, but only one of them is getting the reward. I’m not saying that this is about grades. It’s not. It’s about changing your perspective to aim and reach for the infinite possibilities available to us instead of just going for the minimum requirements. Let’s connect this even closer to relationships. Think about your best friends, your favorite relatives, your spouse or partner, or any favorite human being. None of these great relationships are based on having some sort of minimum time spent, or words spoken, or pats on the back, or dinner dates. Our best relationships are too big for that. How many times they date you isn’t an issue, they always have something prepared. You’re not mad they forgot your birthday, they already keep you front and center every day. You don’t have to count how times they were at fault, you know they’ll fix things when they say they will. What’s the point? You’re not worried about the minimum requirements of a relationship when the person you’re with is already exceeding them. Now before you start checking if your partner or friend is a minimum person or not, check yourself. Are you someone who is going for excellence in your relationships and exceeding expectations? Here are some examples: You’re not worried that your folks will get mad at you for being lazy, you’re already studying very very hard. You’re not arguing based on a mental list of things you did for a person, you’re too busy thinking of what wonderful thing to do for them next. You’re quick to apologize when you’re wrong, because being united in truth is better than always sounding correct. Excellent people don’t have to worry about faithfulness issues, they’re already completely devoted. That’s the meaning of faithfulness by the way: complete devotion, and not just not-cheating. And why do we have to be excellent at all? Because why live life and run our relationships gunning for the minimum required of us? Why let our work life be just about paying the bills? Why let our marriages be just about providing for the kids and accepting that we’re going to get ugly no matter what? Why can’t it be about chasing something and someone you’re passionate about? Some of you might say, “Because that’s reality, David.” No, that’s your reality, a reality you put on yourself when you settled. Whether you settled because you were disappointed before, or hurt, or unsure, or confused, you’ll end up just living a life justifying why you never achieved more. Instead of the minimum requirements, let’s persevere towards the infinite possibilities. Infinite meaning the eternal and limitless options available to us when we live by faith. Again this is not an article to take to your partner, this is a reminder for me not to be the type who settles for minimums but to reach beyond.