In My Culture

There are very few people I can talk to about my dreams. Very few who won’t think I’m nuts, careless, arrogant, or a combination of the three, or who won’t respond with a veiled or not so veiled version of what happens when Icarus flies too close to the sun.

In my culture, people give lip service to faith and courage, yet raise their children to be afraid of God (versus being awed by Him), afraid of man, afraid of risk, afraid of the possible failure that risk brings, and afraid of the sure shame failure brings. In my culture, the wise man doesn’t rock the boat (even if that boat is sinking and people are asleep), doesn’t question the community (even if these communities require complete accountability from him), doesn’t consider doubt because doubt is automatically unbelief. But without shaking things up, everything settles into a nice peaceful bottom like silt. Peaceful, yet at the bottom. Without questions there can be no understanding, and what kind of a community preaches that we must be accountable to it, pay its taxes, and obey its laws, yet never question it? What kind of government promotes transparency without it being transparent?

In my culture, we don’t really want wisdom. We want security. We don’t really want progress. We want comfort. We don’t really want learning. We want dogma. We want superstitions that tell us that if we do this, we get that, no matter how life disproves this simplistic cause and effect.

Because in my culture, what we want to achieve most is our version of a lifestyle sweet spot, a standard of living that is religiously, traditionally, socially, and economically comfortable.

And anyone who decides differently, anyone who questions, anyone who blazes his own trail, anyone who says “This sucks. I’m going to change things.” Is nuts, careless, arrogant, or a combination of the three.

David Bonifacio

David Bonifacio Husband, Father, CEO of Bridge. #DB

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Adam Sugihto (@adamsugihto) - October 13, 2015 Reply

*Amazing* post David. I don’t think these thoughts are limited to the Philippines – this is true of many cultures (including here). By ‘following the rules’ and ‘colouring within the lines’ we excuse ourselves of responsibility if things don’t work out… and we have a yardstick by which to judge others. But by doing this we’re eating of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil – and depriving the world of what could happen if we ate of the Tree of Life! Well done on being able to articulate this so succinctly 🙂

Chelo Gemina - October 13, 2015 Reply

Oh, David! I pray you become famous only so that more people can read what you write! Bring the articles on. Bravo.

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