May You Always Remember

I was very honoured to serve as the best man of my friend, JB Delacruz. It was a beautiful wedding, and I’ll write about it some time for sure. For now, here is my best man’s speech.

Good evening everyone.

I’ve known JB for quite a while.  I’m JB’s younger kuya. I know I have the title of best man, but I’m very proud to say, JB, you’re a much better man than me.

JB is so humble, so teachable, so curious. That makes him wise. He is so generous, so kind, so sacrificial. That makes him loving. And he is so talented, so gifted, so creative. That makes him magical.

JB, you are rich where it counts: in talent, in wisdom, and most of all, in love. Remember that.

Tina, you are blessed tonight because you married a man who is rich in the things that count. Even more, you are marrying the man who loves you most, even more than himself.

Last Friday, after the final meeting  for the wedding, JB was dropping me home, and we talked about the night JB first told me about Tina.

JB had called me and wanted to have dinner because he said he “met someone”.

If you know JB, him saying, “I met someone” is like me saying “I’m going to use the bathroom.” It’s a regular occurrence. So I told him. “Sino nanaman ito?”

But when I got inside JB’s car that night, I knew something was different. It had not been 5 minutes of him talking about Tina when I leaned back and said, “You’re a dead man. You’re in love.”

JB was surprised with my reaction. He said, “How do you know? I’ve barely said anything about her.”

I told him, “I don’t know how I know but I know.”

You see, Tina, you did something to JB. Unintentional it may have been, but significant nonetheless.

When JB saw you that day at the grocery, you captured his heart – and just like Mr. Darcy – He was in the middle before he even knew love had begun.

There are many way to describe what started that day. JB was attracted, smitten, bewitched, among other words, but I think the word “captured” is the most appropriate. Because not only did he find you so beautiful that day, in time you would hold his heart, as you do tonight, and now, for the rest of your life.

Somehow, JB managed to capture your heart as well. I don’t know how. It’s quite the miracle. But like he said earlier, this whole thing is a magical miracle.

JB showed me his depth last Friday, when after I reminded him he was a dead man, he looked at me and said, “Someday, you’re going to die too. And you’re going to enjoy it as much as I am.”

I made that sound nicer. What he really said was, “Mamatay ka rin!”

And I couldn’t sleep that night.

Now that you hold each other’s hearts, value, cherish, and protect each other. Having someone’s heart is a privilege, and like all privileges, there is a connected responsibility.

You are responsible for each other’s growth.
You are responsible for each other’s happiness.
You are responsible for each other’s flourishing.
You are responsible for each other’s dreams.
You are responsible for each other’s lives.

JB, like my dad always tells grooms, it is your responsibility to cultivate Tina, that she will become more beautiful and more excellent through the years.

Tina, it is your responsibility to support JB, to be his partner, to share life with him. JB is so blessed to have you, he really is.

Finally, you are responsible to remember.

Remember that it is God who brought you two together.
Remember today, this beautiful location, the cool evening, the golden moon.
Remember the faces, the voices, the music, the laughter.
Remember the excitement, the preparation, the trepidation, and the expectation.
Remember your vows, your promises, your commitments.
Most of all, remember each other and the love that you share.

If you don’t remember all that I’ve said remember this line: REMEMBER TO LOVE.

Now, can everyone please stand-up and take whatever drink you have.

Congratulations JB. Best wishes Tina. May you always remember.

Cheers.

Buti Na Lang

This is my first Tagalog song. It’s to be performed in a few days and is still not finished! I wrote it for my friend and his fiancé for their wedding.

As I wrote it, I thought about a couple that didn’t settle for the very real fears of real life, but chose to have faith, to believe in each other, and to also believe that love, if true love,  not the superficial and cheap kind, can only be a gift from God, and is worth holding on to and fighting for.

Someone once told me that our assumptions of our future will determine how we live in the present. This is a song about fearful assumptions – and the celebration of a couple who overcame them.

Buti Na Lang

Verse 1:
‘Kala ko
Tatanda na lang akong ganito
Mag-isang tataba’t kakalbo
Buti na lang 
Buti na lang
Buti na lang ngayon
Sabay tayo…

Verse 2:
‘Kala ko
Na wala ng iibig sa akin
Na kabigha-bighanii ng tulad mo
Buti na lang
Buti na lang
Buti na lang nagtagpo
Ang ating puso…

Chorus:
Buti na lang 
Buti na lang
Buti na lang
Di natigil
Sa maling akala
Ang ating kuwento
Buti na lang
Mali ang akala ko

Bridge:
Buti na lang
Tayo’y naniwala
Na ang tunay na pagibig
Ay galing lamang sa langit
Buti na lang talaga
Buti na lang

Chorus:
Buti na lang 
Buti na lang
Buti na lang
Di natigil
Sa maling akala
Ang ating kuwento
Buti na lang
Mali ang akala ko

Ending Verse:
Alam ko
Na Ikaw lamang sa buong mundo
Humahawak at mayari ng puso ko
Buti na lang
Buti na lang
Buti na lang talaga
Buti na lang talaga

Buti na lang talaga
Ako ang pinili mo

Thank you to JB and Tina Delacruz for giving me an occasion to write a Tagalog love song.
Thank you to Archie Castillo, who has been a HUGE partner in my compositions.
Thank you to the other musicians who played the violin and percussions.
Thank you to Ava Samson, Roxanne Lee, and Jef Gaitan for helping me translate the lyrics.
Thank you to Harvard Uy Debaron for the slideshow of the lyrics.

My Friend

He is no friend who cheers your mediocrity and helps you settle for less than you can be.

It is true today as it was then, show me who your friends are and I’ll show you who you are.

Encourage me, challenge me, comfort me, defend me, fight for me, even if against my own stubbornness, that is a friend.

Don’t tickle me with lies I’m inclined to believe. Don’t tell me it’s ok to be selfish. Only an enemy leads others to pain.

Remind me of that beautiful picture and dare me to believe. Remind me of the future of those who hope in Him.

And let us share in the joys and pains of this journey together, as we walk by faith and not by sight.

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